Those of you who frequent this blog know I have a special place in my heart for the nonsense that is seduction as portrayed by Hollywood. All those guys in the PG-13 movies who were shy and awkward yet managed to land the hottest girl in school by the end of the movie are largely to blame for my misconceptions about sex and dating growing up. Maybe you are a beautiful nerd-flower who just needs someone to take the time to get to know you, but there’s a reason why the stereotypical cheerleader dates the stereotypical jock.Attraction doesn’t work the way that Hollywood says it does. Period.
So here we have She’s Out of Your League, a feel good rom-com about a nerdy TSA agent who manages to get a 10 to fall in love with him…by doing NOTHING! Nothing is done by this guy in the way of building rapport or value or even just normal conversation, and STILL the super hot one wants to get on him. NONSENSE, I SAY!
I’ve got no problem with a supposed 5 getting a supposed 10, but the way it happened in the movie NEVER happens in real life. It is explained away in the movie that the 10 was tired of getting hurt by jerks so she wanted to give the 5 a try, but that’s not how hot women really operate. If they want a non-jerk, they get a hot non-jerk with some value.
I do appreciate one element of the movie, though. The inner game element. One of the big fights that this “couple” has is over the guy thinking he’s not qualified to be dating the girl (and he’s right), which le ads to the girl going into a monologue about how his own nonsense is the only thing ruining their relationship.
Here’s the interesting thing: that happens a lot in real life. One of the inner game issues that tons of guys deal with is feelings of worthiness. This comes up a lot with guys who take our seminar, then suddenly find themselves dating women far out of their league and ruining it on purpose. It’s like you suddenly find yourself at the controls of a SR71 BlackBird and you have no idea how to fly, so you just go ahead and let it crash.
Never wig out because a woman likes you. There is no out of your league. The weird thing would be if hot women WEREN’T into you.
Long story short: If you watch this movie, know that this isn’t how guys get hot girls.