Thoughts on the Global Pick Up Conference NYC

Hey gang,

Just got back from giving a talk at the Global Pick Up Conference in NYC.Hosted by Speer, Psych and a few other gentlemen, it was a collection of some of the best in the business. I was very impressed by the time and effort put into the conference. There was a well paced schedule, giving each speaker time for a long presentation and also a Q&A, which I loved. There was also a ton of talent on the schedule. I’m super glad I was able to participate.

The experience led me to having 4 thoughts, which is 2 over my daily limit, but what the hell.

First, I presented the section from my Humor, Improv and Attraction seminar about using humor to sexually frame your conversations, during which I always tell a few stories and give some examples. The expressions on the dudes faces were priceless. A combination of laughter and shock. At least 10 guys came up to me after asking “Did you really say that?!?”

Which brings me to THOUGHT NUMBER 1: There are still a ton of guys out there playing it way too safe. I could go into the litany of reasons why you need to push your boundaries and skate on the razor’s edge of appropriate behavior when talking to women, but in short know this: if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. Read lay reports and try to work in some of the material when you go out yourself. See what happens.

Also, during the Q&A section I was kind of shocked by the types of questions I was getting. I’m always blown away by people who got started on fixing their dating life without taking a LS bootcamp. The motivation it must take to do the research on the material and the balls it must take to do approaches without actual instructors backing you is just mind boggling. It was obvious, though, by the questions I was getting, that there were HUGE holes in their knowledge. There was stuff we cover on day 1 in an LS bootcamp that would have answered these guys’ questions instantly. It was another reminder of how incredible the quality of our education program is.

Which brings me to THOUGHT NUMBER 2: Take a LoveSystems bootcamp ESPECIALLY if you have no other experience in the dating science. It doesn’t matter with whom. I’m not trying to make any money here (unless of course you want to take Humor, Improv and Attraction in Chicago June 12th ) but the more time I spend with guys who haven’t the more I realize how much valuable information they are missing out on. I’m not hating on other schools out there. I’m sure they have excellent and immersive programs as well. Programs that will also fill in the gaps. I can’t speak for their quality, though, as I haven’t sat through them or spent as much time in the field with their instructors. I’ve worked with everyone on the LoveSystems team and sat through all of their seminars, and I can safely recommend them without a seconds hesitation.

I have always been of the opinion that all you really need to get good with women is practice in the field, but for those of you who are confused I still cannot recommend any product higher than an LS bootcamp.

And lastly, I was approached by an old student at the conference. He had taken his bootcamp with Future and I back in February and had a book full of questions for me. He was definitely being way too hard on himself and wasn’t giving himself any credit for his successes. Funnily enough, he also wasn’t pushing his boundaries, which tells me right away that not only is he over thinking, but he’s not even over thinking in the right areas.

Which brings me to THOUGHTS NUMBERS 3&4: relax and escalate. Give yourself a break. This stuff is hard to learn. You gain nothing by putting so much importance on it that you can’t even function. And ESCALATE! Why beat yourself up about not making progress when you’re not even testing the waters for how well you’re doing? How can you tell that you’re not getting into comfort if you’re not asking heavy qualification questions? How do you know that you’re not SNL ready if you’re not trying to bounce girls? Never forget your good old Uncle A.B.E: Always Be Escalating.

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-BB

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