Here’s an article I recently wrote for the LoveSystems insider to help promote my upcoming Humor seminars. I post it here for your enjoyment and education. Enjoy!
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When I got started doing pickup, I noticed that making people laugh was an incredibly quick way to get interest from beautiful women. Not only that, but it made dealing with their male and female friends a lot easier.
There are a lot of reasons why this works so well – I’m not going to rehash what you already know from reading the seduction bible Magic Bullets. Just remember that humor makes you an asset to whomever you are talking to because laughter releases chemicals that make people feel good.
Now, a lot of people think that becoming funny isn’t possible. They think that you just have to be born that way. NOT TRUE. As someone who’s been doing stand-up comedy for six years in New York City, I can tell you that I’ve seen a TON of people go from awful to incredible. All it took was the proper instruction and lots and lots of practice.
(They were also willing to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes, which is an incredible skill set to have when meeting women as well, but that’s a whole other story.)
At the moment, I’m currently working on a one day seminar to help guys become funnier when they are talking to women. Right now I’m going to share with you my three favorite ways to make strangers laugh in bars.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation
The average guy (who hasn’t found Love Systems) tries to make himself look as cool as possible by bragging about his job, his body, and his history.
Doing the opposite – as long as it’s obvious that you’re pretending – is one of the easiest ways to make people laugh. For example:
Just make sure it’s obvious that you’re joking without a lame “just kidding” at the end. Pick things to say that anyone meeting you for the first time would know can’t be true.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #2 – Ridiculous Statements
This is somewhat similar to self-deprecation because you’re also saying things that are obviously not true. But instead of being negative, they’re just ridiculous.
They key to using ridiculous statements is to back them up with good specifics. Specifics make something funnier and more “realistic” even if it’s obviously not true. For example:
My favorite thing about ridiculous statements is that sometimes you don’t even have to make them up. If you ever trip over your words or get confused about the details in a story, then that can be the start of a great ridiculous statement. Pretend that the mistake is what you meant to say. Stick with it and see where it goes.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #3 – Misinterpretation
This started out as one of my favorite games to play in bars and ended up being a great way to make people laugh. Because bars are so loud, I’d pretend like I misheard people and respond to things they didn’t say…
THEM: “So, where did you grow up?”
BIG BUSINESS: “No, I don’t need another drink. Thanks, though.”
Then I thought, “this would be even funnier if it wasn’t loud at all.” I started mishearing things in quiet bars and it got even better reactions than before, so long as they could tell that I was kidding.
After a while I started misinterpreting everything. Some nights, just for fun, I would decide to interpret everything I heard the exact same way, regardless of what it was…
THEM: “Do you know what time it is?”
BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking my name?”
Or
THEM: “I grew up in Philadelphia.”
BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking my name?”
If you’re going to go out and try misinterpretation tonight, make sure you are mishearing them in a way that makes you look good. For example, always assume they are hitting on you, or are asking for your phone number, or trying to buy you a drink.
So in a way, this is kind of the opposite of Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation. I deliberately chose a couple of attraction humor techniques that are pretty similar, so if you get one of them, you should be good at all three.
As with anything, practice makes perfect, so don’t be afraid to go out there and land flat a few times. At least you’ll have a good time doing it!
- Big Business
Big Business is a professional Love Systems dating coach based in New York and a successful stand-up comedian. He leads the exclusive Love Systems Humor, Improv, and Attraction one-day seminar.
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